So ive known my husband has been chatting with his ex for 3 years on the phone for at least the last year. His ex lives in another state. I had a conversation with him over the summer and asked him if hewas in contact with any exs and he said no. But at that time i knew he was. I admit since summer i checked his phone and found on several occassions they talked several times a week... hour or so at a time.... well last night i couldnt push it aside and i told him i knew what he was doing. He was very calm with me..i admitted to seeing their emails and his phone log. He admitted he was talking to her. Told me shesengaged and her fiance knew they were talking i asked him why he felt he couldnt tell me and he told me he didnt think id understand they were just friends... mind you.... ive never shown jealousy or dictated who he could or couldnt talk to. Ever.

I told him if he wouldnt have kept it and talked to me about it i wouldnt have minded so much but sincwme he was deceptive about her i dont feel comfortable with it at all. He told me hed stop talking to her and would tell her to cease communication. Im scared hes going to contibue to lie and just try and cover it up even more. Im sick over this dreadful feeling words of encoyragement would be greatly appreciated right now