Cheaters rant!

Okay hear me out, why do we always attack the "other woman or man" when we catch them cheating? It always bothered me like the other girl is innocent she probably had no idea you existed to begin with. If she knew about you then you have every right to be mad but it's not all her fault.. He cheated not her. So that's why I think if I was being cheated on and so was she we could be nice to eachother. After all the guy is a scum bag not her