Argument is it over?

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Last night I told my boyfriend I felt inadequate and that in a sense he's not acting the same as he used to which made me feel replaceable... He knows about my passed and how I had many men in my life (including my dad) walk out of my life and replace me. He said I was being silly and doesn't need me in his life only wants me for company and can survive without me... I ended the conversation very upset and feeling very crushed and used and it's making me upset today.. How should I go about this? Should i talk to him today or wait for him to text me and hope he apologizes. Or is it just over

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End it! You want someone that CANT survive without you, remember you will be okay, it feels like it won't now but you will!

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Could I just not text him and sort of be like I'm not in his life anymore and let him think if he really needs me or not? He's been self reliant all his life and said I make him happy and comfortable, I felt offended to this. At this point would this be the right route to let him stew and text me when he's ready

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I think you may have taken what he said the wrong way. What he said is what it's like to be in a HEALTHY relationship. He's not with you because he NEEDS you and would die without you, he's with you because he actually WANTS to be with you. It is unhealthy to be so codependent that you say you "can't live" without someone. Those relationships never last.

Everyone starts to act different in a relationship because THE RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSES. At the beginning you're all over each other and can't get enough and text and call and talk every second of every day and don't even hang out with friends because you're so about each other. But after a few months or years, you're relaxed in your love for each other. There's more time in between texts and calls. There's not as much holding hands or canoodling in public because you're relaxed. You guys hang out with your separate friends. It doesn't mean he likes you any less or is going to replace you. That thought possessing your head will be the end of your relationship.

I was with a guy that I adored. Love of my life to this day. Everytime I told him I was in love with him, he would say I wasn't. Everytime I said he was the one for me, he would say I loved someone else more. He freaking poisoned his own mind and made himself miserable. You can only reassure someone for so long before it makes you miserable and not want to be with them anymore.

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He doesn't need you, but you don't need him either! I've told my boyfriend 'I could live without you, i did it before, I just really fucking don't want to'. So it's okay that he doesn't need you, HOWEVER, what a cunty thing to say especially as he knows your past. I personally would end it but if you want to work with him then wait for him to text you and when he does, tell him what he has said is unacceptable and that it has hurt you. I would not move forward until you see him actively trying to change his attitude.

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I think he probably could have gone about it in a different way... But I respect his opinion...

It's true in every healthy relationship, you don't want to rely on that person to the extent you feel you could LIVE without them.

I often think about it as: I can certainly live without you, but I would prefer not to.

A healthy relationship is when both people choose one another everyday, out of love, companionship and because they want to. You should never be in a relationship because you feel the NEED to be. Both parties need to WANT to be there. :)

Just have another discussion about it with him, clear things up! Good luck!!

Argument is it over?

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