I find it comforting that even though it's possible the donor will be the genetic father, we just won't know. My husband likes the idea that his few and far between swimmers might win the race.

But others believe that this will cause tension between my husband and I.

Thoughts?

It's mix it, and not know.

Or use only donor, and know.

Which would you choose?

Edit: yes, the doctor will mix the samples before the insemination.

Edit #2 : we have a full medical history on the donor , should any issues ever come to light.