So I met my boyfriend through my best friend. They work together at a hotel. My best friend Randy is a bartender and my boyfriend Chris works in the kitchen 4 days a week and is a barback 1 day a week but since I've met him 6 months ago he's been trying to be a barback full time. He hates the kitchen. Well Randy has told me before that he thinks Chris is lazy and not good at his job but randy likes to think of himself as being better than everyone else especially straight males. I didn't think much of it because I know chris is hard working. He works between 60 and 70 hours a week sometimes. He's by no means lazy. He's also very good friends with the head chef (one of the top 50 most important people in the city as it happens), the second in command chef, the second in command bar manager, the head bartender, and the other bartender other than Randy in the bar. All of them have high praise for Chris and how hard he works. Come to find out Randy has been actively telling the highest bar manager that Chris is a terrible barback and has had an impact in why he's never getting the barback shifts that he wants, hence never being able to move up as a bartender. Now I feel like I need to choose sides. On one hand I absolutely love my boyfriend and feel like I have a really great future with him, but Randy has been my best friend for years. I just don't understand why on earth he would do this. My boyfriend was in tears last night because they used to be close and now he feels betrayed but neither one of us can say anything because his boss told him in confidence. He wasn't actually allowed to say anything about it but because they're close he told him. I'm just not sure what to think.