Friendships, Miscarriages & Pregnancies
Back in September I suffered a pretty bad miscarriage and during that time my best friend (at the time) texted me and told me she was pregnant and that she was just going to stay distant. Extremely hurt I felt like when I really needed a friend, a sister, she bailed on me. It really threw a wrench in our friendship and quite honestly we haven't spoken much or seen each other at all since. As excited as I was for her I had a hard time with my own loss. Meanwhile she had NO idea what I was going through and presumed to tell me what I should feel and do, which didn't sit too well with me.
Fast forward to today. I am 5 weeks pregnant and we haven't announced our pregnancy yet due to the miscarriage last time, we'd like to be further along before we tell everyone. I just got a text from one of my dear friends who is 6/7 weeks pregnant and she started spotting yesterday. I have been there and I know how sensitive that time is, wondering if your body is rejecting the baby or not... It could be nothing, or it could be a miscarriage.
My situation is I just don't know whether I tell her I'm pregnant or don't mention it at all. It'll be fairly obvious any day now and I see her on a weekly basis. I don't want to hurt her or seem insensitive because I've been on both sides of this situation now and I don't want to damage our friendship.
Any helpful advice in how to approach these situations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
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