After the miscarriages, it was very heartbreaking for me. I was depressed and hurt. My fiances mother, was horrible about it. She would say she hates me, that the children weren't his, that I was a whore. She said she wished I miscarried, that she wouldn't be around unless I got a DNA test done, etc. now this was a year ago, and she has apologized since then. Only because my fiance TOLD her to say sorry. So it wasn't coming from her. 

Anyways, our baby is due in 3 weeks. I do NOT want her at the hospital. Why? Because she was hateful to me ever since she met me. My fiance said he understood but he was very upset because he's very close to her and really wanted her there as its her first grandchild. He did agree that she wouldnt be there, but I wanted to comprimise and just have no visitors that way she doesn't get upset that its just her. When we told her there would be no visitors she freaked out, cried and said how selfish it is. She proceeded to tell us how it should be done. 

My question is, is it selfish to not have anyone there for the first week or so? I plan to do it natural, so im going to be in pain, tired, overwhelmed. Not to mention i was to breastfeed right away and bond with my baby. As i have the right to do. 

I just feel like after the pain she put me through with saying she hopes i miscarry, and the times when she would say i was lying about being pregnant. She also said much more that i would get into.  means she shouldnt be there but my fiance was so upset that he cried. I cant stand seeing him like that i just cant seem to be okay with her touching my baby.