Ok so my fiancé and I have been best friends since childhood. We know what we want and it was ideal for US to keep The guest list at below 100 people. We wanted a intimate ceremony and reception with the closest family and friends and that's it. We figured the smaller the wedding the nicer we could make it and don't care to have over 200 people there that we either barely know or never see etc. so from my side of the family there are literally 35 people coming and that worked out very well for us. I told him to write down the people he wants to come from his side or that he think should come and we ended up with a total of 90 people after that. He has a big family, but controversially decided not to invite every single one. His father has like nine sisters and his mother has a huge family as well and they all have husbands and they all have children and some of them have grandchildren. His father side of the family he only sees some of his aunts once a year maybe twice a year and isn't very close to them. So he decided not to invite certain people he barely sees or is it close to. So his mom and dad basically have a cow his mom is all about appearance and wants to invite everyone that she feels should "feel invited". And his dad is all about the fact that family is family and it would only be right to invite every single family member. His mom said since there are so many that's fine they will just invite family and invite no family friends. What she doesn't understand is that some of the family friends we are closer with some of his actual family and my fiancé really wants them there. Me and my fiancé and my parents from what I know so far are paying for everything his parents have not stated that they are going to help but I might assume they may help with the food, pay half. So after the people were added that they think should be invited the guest list went from 90 to 140.  With only 35 individuals being from the brides, that's me, side of the family. I just felt partially like it was kind of rude because it was their paying for half of everything including all of the extra decorations and table settings I will have to do and a bigger room I may now have to pay for and all the alcohol to serve all of his gas that he shouldn't be able to just sit down insist that many more people should be there. I know it's controversial when it comes to family and I do understand the other side or point of view but when it comes down to it I'm thinking about paying for all of this. And I feel it's rude for them to throw a temper tantrum  and get pissed off and basically tell my fiancé that he was raised better than that because he doesn't invite individuals he barely sees as well as them insisting on the individuals being added or they basically said they would help with nothing and claim it would cause a huge drama for them. And I also have to sacrifice what me and my fiancé want to accommodate his parents and be surrounded by 50 more people I don't now and I feel I will also be a little more uncomfortable because of it. Any advice on this?