How do you deal with fear?

Question

Hi ladies,

I don't really have any friends who have experienced pregnancy loss, nor have any of them been pregnant and had kids, so I really appreciate anyone willing to read this and help me out.

In July I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. It was devastating, but I've finally begun to heal. Last week, I missed my period and got a positive on a HPT. My husband and I are thrilled!

The thing is though, I cannot stop this constant feeling of overwhelming fear and anxiety. I know the numbers are in my favor, since most women don't have two consecutive miscarriages (so they say) but I am so so scared.

Lately I feel like my symptoms have stopped, just like they did last time before I started bleeding. I'm just overall freaking out and an emotional mess.

I just appreciate any words of comfort or wisdom or even blunt truth if I should really be bracing for the worst. Thanks for your help in advance.

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I remind myself of a mantra a friend shared:
This is a different pregnancy, a different baby, a different story, with a different ending.

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Me and my husband are like happy, yes, but we are more stressed and tensed than happy.. Honestly for me, after a loss, pregnancy can never be the same... All I do is make sure I'm busy doing something or the other except for thinking about the baby... But can't help it!

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I had a missed miscarriage in may.  Thought I was 12 weeks,  but baby passed at 8 weeks.

I'm now 25 weeks and 4 days with a boy!  The fear hasn't gone away for me!  His movements are the only peace I get!

I also realized after a vivid scary dream that as a mom,  we will probably never stop worrying.  Even when they are 45 and have kids of their own!

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I'm following for myself but figure I'll share my two cents also.

I had a miscarriage in September and am now pregnant again. I'm about 6 and a half weeks along. I had this feeling last time that everything would be okay- and it wasn't in the end. Needless to say this time I'm much more nervous and anxious. I worry about every thing I feel. My first ultrasound is on Friday and that is where we found out last time that we would have a miscarriage.

I find yoga helps me get a handle on my brain- at least for the little while I am doing yoga. Sometimes journaling helps also. I've been seeing my acupunturist regularly to help with my anxiety.  The most time I have to sit and dwell on the potential results the worse it is for me.

I also went to see a therapist the other day. I've seen her previously so we do have a bit of a relationship. She said to me think of each baby as a new soul, the last one didn't need to be here for whatever reason but this is a new one so it will be a whole new story. I found that somewhat comforting to think of it like that.

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I'm pregnant w my rainbow baby. I also fear but I'm also faithful and hopeful. Here is my favorite mantra. "Miracle is a change in perception from fear to Love" .Faith and fear cannot exist at the same exact moment.... Choose faith.🌟 That's just what I do.... Blessings your way!!!

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Ive had 2 miscarriages. The second time i found out i was pregnant i wasnt that worried because like you said many women dont have two in a row... well the worst happened and I had a second one. When I found out I was pregnant again I was terrified. I always expected the worst and always expected to wake up or move and start bleeding. I didnt even let myself get really excited or into it until I had my first ultrasound at 14 weeks. Im 22 weeks now and my new fear is something will go wrong at the end and ill have a stillborn... i dont think everyone gets over that fear. Im sure some do but I am the type of person that overthinks everything lol but im not nearly as worried as before. Believe me it gets better. Just try not to worry!

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