I think it's important to talk about motherhood candidly. I'm still new to it all, six months in but I'll be damned if I expected something else. If you're searching for it you'll learn of postpartum depression, sleepless nights, frustration but to the unsuspecting individual, having a child can throw you for a loop. Two of my friends had babies shortly before me and I would tell them about my rough day and they would say, oh, it gets easier at X months. Now I'm privy to the "it was all bullshit to give you the hope and strength to continue club". Don't get me wrong, I would never choose a different path and want to have another baby eventually, but I am a crazy person! I just, I wish people stopped trying to look like they have it all together, posting happy pictures and never talking about the hard times. I think this gives FTM's unrealistic expectations of what life will be like. I will tell you, you know it won't be easy but you don't know it will be this hard. When you have your baby, or if you already have one, speak the truth. Mom's need to know they are not alone in struggling (yes some women don't but I'm finding more and more do). Don't pass judgment, be kind and be honest. Maybe if the picture of motherhood were more real we'd have less people jumping into it when they weren't actually ready. I highly recommend joining mom groups but please keep in mind, it's the hardest job in the world and we are all doing the best we can. We all make the choices for our babies that we do because we love them. Stop criticizing!! I shall step down from my soapbox.