When I invited my aunt (and her family) to my wedding and rehearsal dinner, my mom basically lost it and accused me of being manipulative and purposely putting her in an uncomfortable position. Honestly, I invited my other aunts and uncles and I get along personally with my aunt and her family very well, so I didn't think it was going to be such a big deal. 

My aunt was on my invite list for my shower that my mom is throwing (it's supposed to be a surprise, so I'm not involved in planning). I just received a generous gift from my aunt, but it's not from my registry, so I'm assuming my mom left her off the invite list for my shower. Which doesn't surprise me but it's making an uncomfortable reality for me. 

I'm not going to fight my mom on it because of her reaction to my aunt coming to my wedding, but it just really upsets me and puts me in an awkward position. I just wish people can put on a nice face for the sake of people they supposedly love and politely put up with breathing the same air as someone they can't stand for an afternoon. I would do it if it meant something to someone (heck, there's plenty of people I can't stand but I just deal with it). 

What would you guys do?