How do I make husband connected??

Question

My husband is annoying me at the moment because he's completely disconnected from any pregnancy worries, anxieties, or physical and emotional issues that I'm going through. (For example, mc fears just irritate him and he wants me to "relax.") he doesn't understand at all that's easier said than done when you feel like crap, have 40 percent more blood in your body, pregnancy rhinitis, AND you already feel attached to the baby without being able to check up on it without an Ob Gyn. These pregnancy apps are my friends right now. I'm here searching for everything I lack at my own home: people (women) who get it. Does anyone else have this issue, and how do you make a guy like this connected to the pregnancy??

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I sent my husband a request to join me on this app. Now, he sees how the baby is growing every day and he gets to read my daily logs to see what I go through every day. He is amazed at how another human is growing inside me, and he is extremely sympathetic to how crappy I feel every day. Lol. Hope this helps!

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Thank you so much, ladies! I'll try. I think having him at the US will help a bit. I'll invite him to the app. I know he wants me to relax when he tells me to stop worrying about the miscarriage. But I function strangely: it's almost as if I need to "balance out" the worry. When my mom was visiting and she worried about my every meal and step, then I was calming things down. When he's completely nonchalant about the pregnancy, then I feel like I have to worry. I guess I want to be treated a little differently right now, and his philosophy - aside from not letting me carry anything - is just to continue living as if nothing's going on.

I just saw a New Yorker cartoon in which a husband tells the wife: "I'm so sorry your head hurts. Is there anything I can do... to make you shut up about it?" That's us when I complain 😟

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I give my husband an update everyday -- the bad and the ugly. At first it was met with resistance, but eventually he had to live with it. Also, sometimes when I tell him I love him, I tell him baby loves him too. It sounds silly, but I think it reminds him he's in this with us.

When it's come to anxiety, which has definitely been abundant at times, I try to be as clear and direct as possible. I tell him I'm scared. I tell him why. I tell him what I need -- like just to hold me or to leave me alone or to let me watch my TV show to distract myself. When he asks if I'm upset at him, I tell him straight (but kindly), even if it's that I'm not upset (usually). I think and hope it creates clear expectations and that he can and better take my words at face value.

I hope this helps.

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Well... I have my hubby pet my belly and kiss baby goodnight everyday. It charms him and makes him feel connected. Plus I am sure to let him know very gently that I am miserable... And then proceed to look extremely miserable... It has worked wonders for me. Hubby is very involved in my pregnancy.

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You have to realize he doesn't feel what your feeling, the hormones aren't effecting him and life is just like it was. Until he actually sees the ultrasound it's not real for them because they don't feel it and he probably doesn't know how to help you with your fears and doesn't want you to be stressed out. Just try and relax and let him ease into it, it's a lot to take in and understand when your not the one carrying the child.

How do I make husband connected??

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