So me and my husband were ttc for about 6 months and finally, we found out I was pregnant. I did everything I thought I was supposed to do. Quit stress smoking ( I'm not a smoker, I just sometimes smoke not even a half a cigarette when I'm feeling super stressed.) I got on prenatals. Stopped taking nsaids cause I heard that was bad. And because I was currently between insurers I didn't have insurance to go to the doctor straight away. I went to the health department to get insurance but it took longer than expected to get a day off work the same as my husband. It took about two weeks from the time we found out to get me to the health dept. And then I scheduled my actual doctor appointment with my gynecologist and that was about a week and a half after I got my insurance. Well long story short three days before my doctors appointment I started bleeding. Not heavy bleeding. Just looked like blood clots but seeing as this was my first pregnancy I went to the er. They said the baby was just fine and that I had a uti. They didn't check for a heartbeat and I didn't think to ask. So I was told not to work until I was cleared by my gynecologist I went to the appointment and come to find out their ultrasound equipment was at another location so there went another two days worrying that something was terribly wrong with my baby. At this point they said I was showing enough horomones to be 11 weeks pregnant. But that day when we went in for my ultrasound they couldn't find a heartbeat. I have never in my life experienced so much heart ache. And now my husband wants to try again and I'm terrified. I'm afraid that the same will happen. I don't know what I did wrong so I can fix it. The doctors just said this kind of thing just happens a lot more than they would hope and that I'll be fine the next time I get pregnant. Is there any tips that maybe someone knows to help this fear or ease my mind a little? I know a lot of women have gone through this so maybe someone knows something I don't.