How do you deal?!

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Has anyone had to deal with friends or family telling them they they aren't eating enough or they aren't "big" enough?! I'm 29 weeks and all of my bloodwork and tests have come back remarkable. Doctor says I'm doing just great. But I don't know how to respond to people without being rude.

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At my last appointment I hAd gained a total of 30 pounds so far the whole pregnancy and my doctor warned me not to go over 40 pounds total. I'm petite at exactly 5ft and my prepregnancy weight was 137. When I tell people about having to watch my weight the constantly say things like "You hardly eat anything anyway!" Or "you eat like a bird" "where could you be hiding all that weight?" It's frustrating.

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Yep my sister in laws both gained over 60 lbs and I've gaind a grand total of 10 (I'm 31weeks) and they keep telling me "just wait your get big" you need to eat more your starving her. I ignore them because they are just jealous that I'm not a heffer like them

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I haaaate these comments. They ask if my son is "normal" and healthy. I just stare quietly and search my brain for something to say back but everything I think of sounds mean lol. I was 112lb with a 25 inch waist.  Now I'm 132 and 36 around so to me, I'm not too small! Everyone carries differently.

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I don't think it's necessary to be rude to "shut them up" or really even have a comeback at all. I would rather be told I look too small than too big! When people say things like this to me I laugh and say "Oh thank you! I don't feel too small" or just a simple "thank you" in a joking tone and people laugh and get on with their lives. People are not trying to offend (usually) and they don't make those comments because they are concerned about your babies health (again, usually). They are just trying to be nice and make small talk. I would not take these comments so personally, unless you know for a fact the person has ill intentions.

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Just laugh it off and sweetly say, "my doctor says everything is measuring out perfectly and that I don't need to change a thing!" The less you make it a big deal, the less they will

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Yes!!!!     Everyone tells me I'm to small and need to eat more.     Makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong even though doctor says my weight gain its fine!   Ultrasound today!    30 weeks.

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I get the same thing every time someone new finds out! The "oh my gosh you're 7 months?! You're tiny! Is everything ok?!" The first time it had me paranoid... Like what if something is wrong, but now,  It's like yes people everything is fine. My dr is not worried at all. I've gained a total of 9 pounds and I'm 29 weeks, big deal. They don't realize how their comments can be so annoying and taken the wrong way.

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I'm struggling with this too! I just say well my doctor said i can do this and my baby and I are healthy. Someone told me I shouldn't be walking bc the cord could wrap around my baby's neck.. -_- yeah there's some real dumb people this same person also asked me if I was having morning sickness I'm in my third trimester so NO haha. I just smile and say thanks I'll consider that or I appreciate you letting me know that.

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I've gotten rather short with people who aren't my doctor. Or a doctor. Or nurse. I simply ask where they got their degrees at and they tend to STFU pretty quickly!

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