Name calling!

My daughter is being called names by this not so nice girl at school.  When she told me what she is being called I lost it laughed so hard. But I realized it's probably bothering her to the point she cussed at her.  Now my daughter doesn't cuss so how can I handle this situation so it doesn't escalate to my daughter whopping this girl's butt?  She reminds me so much of me it scares me, I was in all kinds of fights at school always getting kicked out.  She doesn't know this but I was a horrible teen!  Since those teenage years my life has completely changed and no one would have ever guessed that from me!  My daughter is being called a penis- in returned she called a girl a Bitch.  Which I want her to stand up for herself but I'm so scared that she will get into trouble the way I did, I just told her to ignore the girl that she didn't know what else to call you or it's another word for being a dick.  Which I get because she been one here at home! 
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Ta

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Lmao a penis?? Kids are so funny. I'm sorry I don't have any advice really. But my little brother told me "I know you are but what am I" works for him and gets the other child agitated.

T

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Would it be petty to tell your daughter to call this other girl a scrotum and see how she likes it?

Pu

Purple35 • Feb 4, 2016
Ha I was thinking vagina!! Lol

Va

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Your daughter needs to ask the girl why she is so obsessed with her and penisis. Make it really obvious. Like she needs to scream "Omg why do you love penisis so much! It's all you ever talk about!!! You're like totally obsessed with me!" She needs to embarrass the girl enough that she won't do it again. The bully will probably have some come back like "I'm not, I hate penisis you're gross." But your daughter needs to hold strong and say something even louder "There you go again talking about penisis!" And then walk away. Your daughter can't get angry and she has to be able to laugh at the bully. I promise you it will stop if the bully gets embarrassed enough.I promise it will work! I had a girl in school who kept trying to "fight me" cause she thought I told her BF she cheated on him with one of my guy friends. (I was like 90 lbs and could bearly do a push up. She was much more popular than I was. This would not end well) So I screamed out loud "Why do you keep trying to fight me do you want to feel me up or something?" She turned bright red and all eyes were on her. She then called me weak. I screamed even louder "Sorry I'm not white trash enough to fight you"and walked away. A freaking teacher burst out laughing and the whole hallway did that Ooooooooo thing. She avoided eye contact the rest of the year. 😌

Va

Valerie • Feb 4, 2016
I would avoid name calling at all costs. You really just want to make what the bully is doing embarrassing. Bully's are way more skilled at simple name calling I wouldn't want to go head to head with a teenager and their "creative vocabulary".

An

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If it's happening at school discuss it with the teacher. 

Mo

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Ha ha that is hilarious! Kids can be such little jerks sometimes LOL. I would just do what you did and tell her to ignore them. Also let her know that usually people are mean when they are jealous of you or when they are treated mean at home themselves. It teaches them to have compassion, which is a better way to deal with bullying. You don't want to be like the name calling bully anyway. 

Me

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I taught my daughter how to make people feel stupid. So when someone insults her, she knows how to give them "the look" and scoff. Or make a little comment about their clothes or hair. It's not nice but she has been taught to only use this method if someone is being mean to her first. That way she doesn't end up losing it and she ends up looking like the better person. Apparently it has worked really well. It turned other girls against the girl that was causing problems. And having a girl call your daughter a penis totally deserves "the look" and a serious scoff. How lame is that kid? 

Me

Melissa • Feb 4, 2016
Guess what I'm trying to say is I actually taught my kid to be passive aggressive. Haha. Great parenting.

Ar

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I couldn't help but laugh omg 😂😂😂

Ja

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My daughter will have the same rules i had growing up....you dont start the fight and you never put your hands on someone unless its self defense. Now i grew up being told that if someone got in my personal bubble, i was to hit them first, but i also had a big mouth on me so nobody really got in my face.

No

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My daughter now 18 had a mental breakdown due to name calling, I'd rather take a beating than somebody verbally abuse me, her only way to deal with these little dickheads was to agree with everything they said, so if she got called a name, say instance, slag! She would just agree and say yep that's me.  It rendered them powerless, because they did not get the desired reaction from her, they didn't know it affected her deep down, hence the break down, after 10 months they stopped and started with another kid.  My daughter was in hospital and now has severe anxiety, she will fully recover one day, and when she does, I hope she gets revenge!

Me

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Role play acceptable coping skills with her. And if it's happening at school let the teacher know to be in the look out to intervene if needed.