Dear Estranged Husband
I'm sorry I left you and you don't understand why. I didn't want to hurt you but I couldn't take one more day of being untrue to myself. I'm not the person I once was and I need time to figure out who I am now. The past six years I have taken over every role in our relationship, I'm a mother to you, a secretary, a maid, a nanny. I've been your shoulder to lean on and your support for everything, I always encouraged you to do what you needed to take care of yourself. I never discouraged you from leaving a job you hated and gave you ample amounts of time in between employers. You never did the same for me, I have worked full time in a very demanding career for over four years all while taking care of our child and you never even asked me how my day was when I came home. I feel drained from you. You took all of me and gave me almost nothing in return, I never came first or even second with you. I have to be selfish now and take care of me. It's time to reclaim my identity and look in the mirror and recognize myself. I need to love myself because I don't love what I've become, I love facets of my life. I love being a mommy to our daughter but I don't love holding the weight of our life on my back. I'm only one person and I can't do it all with you anymore. I've tried to explain all of this to you but it seems you don't understand where my head is. It's time to be an adult and fix myself, time to stand on my own and see what I'm capable of when I'm not trying to please everyone around me. I'm sorry that I've hurt you, I didn't want to do that but my emotional well being has to come first. I will put myself first now, well at least second under our daughter. I don't know what will happen when I figure myself out and I can't guarentee that I'll be with you because I truthfully don't know what I want. I just had to walk away before I hated you. Maybe in time I'll be able to move more towards an answer and out of "I don't know" land.
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