I'm so torn between trying to be supportive and a good friend and trying to put myself in someone else's shoes verses my situation.

A little back ground on the subject. One of my best friends is in an all-around abusive relationship. I think he has crossed every line I would ever draw for a man. He has put his hands around her neck, she makes excuses for it. He had an affair 6 wks after they were married, she stuck by him. He was fired from his job for accusations of sexual misconduct, she chose to believe her husband's story. She has caught him in several lies involving other women, he spent over $900.00 in one weekend bar hopping and going to strip clubs. He has alienated her from most of her family as well as her friends. She has a child from a previous relationship and she has told me how she feels like he resents her and hates her child. I try so hard to be the good friend... "whatever you decide, I'm here for you and I'm on your side, no-matter-what.

But... she just found out that she is pregnant. In the 2 weeks, he has told her how trashy she is, she has no business having a child, she needs to get rid of it. No one will want her because she will have 2 kids by 2 different dad's but she's pathetic because she can sit on her butt and collect child support for 2 kids so she doesn't have to work as hard. (Which is ridiculously crazy because she has a great job, makes good money and takes care of herself and her child pretty much alone.) I'm sure there is much more but those are the key points to the 2 short weeks since she found out.

I talked to her today and she's begging me for my opinion. She is leaning towards having an abortion and finally leaving him for good. I may catch a lot of heat for this but being pro-choice doesn't meant I'm pro-abortion. I'm pro-make-your-own-choice.

What would your advice be?