Is this a deal breaker or something worth working on?

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My sister called me crying bc she could not believe she had just attacked her fiancé.. Here's why...3 months after their engagement they started arguing constantly.. He later revealed he was trying to push her away BC of wedding gitters..they separated for 3 months as a result in August. Her fiance then met girl B during the break (September) ..girl B eventually called it quits (November) BC she felt she was not getting 100℅ of my sis fiancé ..then my sis n her fiance got back together in November n he claimed he was over the previous 3 month fling. Now (february) girl B reaches out n my sis fiance entertains the text by saying "whos this" and then asked for a pic. My sis feels it would have went further if her fiance knew for sure it was girl B..they talked and her fiance admitted he still had feelings for girl B but chose to ignore them to get things back on track with my sis.. When he disclosed this my sis literally put a hurting on him..I told her I think it's definitely a deal breaker because it's unlikely that he can be committed to her while having feelings for another woman. They are supposed to get married in 30days..my sis cannot get this woman out of her head and fears he may think of this woman during intimacy.. What do you ladies think??????

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Well first of all, regardless of the situation, no one should lay a hand on anyone. That would be directed at your sister. What you're talking about is assault. You honestly think after getting beat by your sister that this man is going to want to be with her his entire life?? She just basically showed him the door. He doesn't even have to use "girl B" as an excuse out of the relationship. He can easily say that he doesn't want to be in an abusive relationship and your sister really opened his eyes to how she really is..... ANYWAY... To answer your question, who in their right mind would marry a man that admittedly confessed to having feelings for another woman, then said he just suppressed them to be in a relationship with you???? Seriously? If she can't figure this out on her own, sounds like she's not mature enough for a SERIOUS relationship. (Point being, it's not a brain buster.. He's not ready to be married and he's more than likely not really wanting to marry your sister, period)

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If he's still in love with the other woman, I'd just leave. 👌

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I wouldn't say his in love with the girl cuz it was just 3months but he clearly doesn't care for your sis. If he did, while on that break he wouldn't have found someone else. He would have been working on himself to better the relationship between him and your sis. Instead he was seeing someone else and having sex, as if he wasn't engaged at all. Please tell your sis to move on with her life, odd she doesn't I feel she's going to get hurt even more down the road.

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They should not be getting married and your sister needs helps for putting her hands on him. They need to split up and not look back.

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As soon as he said the words he has feelings for another girl means his love for your sister isn't real. When you're in love with someone and want them for the rest of your life you don't fall for someone else. Being in a situation with a girl b it's not fun! My husband never said he had feelings for her and it was all a texting relationship with them it still kills me to this day! If he would've ever told me he had feelings for her I'd be gone!

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She should leave unless she wants a life where she cant trust him and spends her entire time thinking of whether he truly loves her or not

Is this a deal breaker or something worth working on?

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