I don't have pleasure from sex, is something wrong with me?!

Question

I'm a junior in high school (16) and since sophomore year I have been holding off from losing my virginity until I found someone stable who was healthy and good for me. I found that person a while ago and now just last week we had sex for the first time.
I mean the emotional part was great, don't get me wrong, I was happy it was with him but it just didn't feel great. I was turned on by him and everything except for the sex it's self. It was clean and we tried several positions but I don't know I just didn't feel pleasure at all.

I didn't really think it was a big deal or anything since it was my first time but  since that time I've had sex four more times (all with codoms) and they have just not been pleasing at all.

My boyfriend isn't a virgin inexperience is not the case... I don't know is something wrong with me? We used Trojan condoms and then ribbed ones but nothing did it.

My boyfriend doesn't want to put me through things that aren't enjoyable for me( I told him how I felt) and now is afraid to have sex with me because he doesn't want me to feel pressured into doing anything.

The thing is I do want to have sex, I do. I just don't know why I can't feel the pleasure that everyone else has from it. Help what's wrong with me?!?!

Answer

Sex didn't get fun to me until almost 4 years after losing my virginity. It really does get better with time. Its weird . lol but right now your new and just doing the motions and that's okay. You'll figure it all out.

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Has he tried going down on you? A lot of people don't feel stimulated through just penetration.

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Sex isn't that enjoyable for the woman until the man or woman because more experienced With their partners body. Don't worry girlfriend the only way to make it better is to practice (safely😉)

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Even if your boyfriend isn't a virgin he could still be relatively new to sex. But you could try ultra thin condoms. I've noticed that Trojan condoms(especially the ribbed ones) are kinda thick. I'm not sure if Trojan has something similar but Durex has condoms called "invisible" and they're sooo thin and feel great, but don't worry all condoms have to have a certain amount of protection! And honestly you're still very new to sex and it might take a little bit longer to figure out what you like and what feels best!! It took me a little bit to get to really really enjoy it, but me and my husband were both virgins when we first had sex! Have fun!! Just be safe about it😊

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Yeah having sex and actually enjoying it takes time. Most first timers won't have fun and part of the reason is because of age but I won't lecture you on that.

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I lost mine like a year and a half ago. It still doesn't do anything for me yet. I have heard different things from other women about how long it took for it to start feeling better for them. For a lot, it wasn't right away. If you do become pretty worried, you can check with a doctor, but I think you are fine.

I don't have pleasure from sex, is something wrong with me?!

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