When I was a ftm I heard so many different horror stories, have u been the same?? Please don't believe all the crap people tell u, one of my friends had a bad birth last time while I was pregnant with my second, and she told me to my face that she hopes mine is bad to, which it wasn't!! It was absolutely amazing!! Obviously hurt but I was in shock at how fast and beautiful it all happened. Then I posted the day after about how perfect it all was, yes she was gutted. Nasty cow. Ignore people like this, there not worth the steam of ur shit. :)