Please help with advise! Divorce or wait?!

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Ok so i need some unbiased advice ladies. I am 28 yrs old and my husband is 27 and i have a 7 year old from a previous relationship and he has a 5 yr old from a previous relationship. We have full custody of both our kids and his ex only sees their daughter in the summer. Anyways my his and and i have been together total for 2 1/2 years (3 in august) and before we got married he was all for us having a baby together and now hes 100% against it. He just doesnt think its a good idea for our family and now he is saying 3 kids is too much . I am absolutely heartbroken bc i have always wanted to have another child for YEARS and i was so happy that he wanted to before we got married but now he is saying that it will never happen. Im so hurt that hes taking my choice away and i feel lied to. Of course he says its not a lie he just changed his mind but thats a huge thing to just change ur mind about. So ladied what shld j do? Is there anyway i can convince him to change his mind? Ive been trying to for the past year with no luck and i only got a "maybe we cld try" once inthat entire time. Shld i just wait for him to possibly change his mind in time since he is only 27 or shld i just move on and end our marriage and try to find someone else? I dnt know what to do!!!!!! 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

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U need to tell him how much his decision could affect your marriage.  He may be worried how things would be if u split up and he has 2 kids from 2 exes He ob has experienced this and it must be hard not having your child 24/7 ( I do know this very well)  Tell him your marriage is stro g enough to cope with 3 kids but u doubt it is strong enough not to have one. Give him time to digest what u are saying - he need to dwell on how he would feel without u in his life. It would be a breaker for me.

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Your supposed to love him no matter what. 
If you had no children it would be different. But you both do. If you split up its already going to be hard on those children. 
He may change his mind he may not. If it was him saying he would leave everyone would be up in arms about its your body your decision. Not his. That if he left because of it that he's an ass. 
Best of luck

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In some states that is grounds for annulment. If he led you to believe you would have children with him then reneged on this later it is considered fraudulent and misleading you into a fraudulent marriage. That is an option as opposed to a divorce.

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Unfortunately I just got divorced last year because he wouldn't agree to children. It killed me to divorce him but I have found someone that makes me extremely happy now and oddly enough we are expecting now. Follow your heart.

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And this is why you go to pre marriage counseling and take 9 months worth of classes and conferences...
You and your spouse need to make this discussion a serious priority with a professional.

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Children would be a deal breaker for me. Each person is different but this is a topic I think couples need to agree on. We had the discussion before we got married including what if we weren't able to have children. We both knew what the plan was.

Please help with advise! Divorce or wait?!

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