Is this normal ? I'm dying inside

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt like he was putting no effort into our relationship . I know he loves me and I know he wasn't cheating he just had a lot on his plate and I felt like I was supporting him in all aspects and getting nothing in return and I finally just had enough . He left for a few days I packed his stuff up for him and when he came to get it he asked if we could try to rebuild our relationship that he will stay at his moms to save money and take care of the things that have been stressing him out and that when we spend time together he will make the effort to be present and give me what I need and deserve . I was apprehensive because I still felt like he didn't want to hear my feelings and he didn't want to hear about how horrible he's made me feel the past 8 months . I stupidly kept texting him paragraphs about how he made me feel unappreciated and like I wasent enough . We were barely having sex and I just felt emotionally and mentally drained . He finally said fuck it and decided he was done and won't talk to me . His mom told me that I need to not try and contact him and give him a taste of his own medicine and make him realize what he's missing but I'm dying inside . I don't know if I feel this way because I know I beat a dead horse and kept pushing and pushing and he left and I feel like he dosent care or if this I just truly feel he is my person and I made a huge mistake . Does anyone have any advice for me I'm honestly struggling so much it's affecting my health and my work performance and I don't know what to do please help .

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you told him you needed him to put in more effort and he left. that is a sign to just let him be he's obviously he's  not listening to you and if he is he's not making his case any better. he said he wants to be there well make him prove it don't talk to him and make him have to put in the effort.

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I'm curious why you're trying to contact him when you broke up with him? If he's not giving you what you want, find someone who will, they are out there. Better than trying to force someone into being something they're not.

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We're in exactly the same boat not that we've broken up but inside I feel that way it's ashame when we as woman can be there to support our man and stand grounds of not cheating when they turn about face no matter what you're going thur just like were there for them shouldn't they be here for us, I agree with you it can be mentaily and emotionally draining all at once not knowing weather to follow your head or heart but I keep telling myself I know my worth and I know one day I'll find a man who's there with me to help me repair all my broken inches at all causes and you should say the same.. Some people just don't realize how good they have it until you really are gone.. It's just sad you have to walk away because someone can't even seem to show you the time and attention the way you show them.but keep you're head up you'll be fine as Im saying the samebto myself if the relationship ran it's course leave it if not fight for it but why fight if he isn't willing to do the same

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If you fell out due to him not making the effort. And now you've told him EXACTLY how you feel and he is now sulking by the sounds of it. So I would let him cool off and lick his wounds. And wait. I know it's hard. But ignore him and be patient. If he wants to make it work he will. He needs to show you he can fight for you. If he doesn't, that tells you all you need to know. 
Grit your teeth and stay busy. Whatever happens, I hope you feel better

Is this normal ? I'm dying inside

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