Just a rant becuase I am mad! I have a very specific birth plan, I have made a birth plan for every situation that could happen, eg if I have to have c section, if I pass out, if baby needs immediate medical attention asap ect, for each situation it's pretty much the same things, it's not a lot to remember. I briefly explained it to him and said I need to him to know the birth plans perfectly, he said nah il just take a copy and I was like nooo I want you know then, if your unsure of what I want and I am in a situation where I am incapable of making a decision I need you to be completely confident and knowing what to do or else the dr will just make the decision for us! On my birth plans are things like delayed cord clamping, and not wanting the baby to leave the room (unless absolutely necissary of for him to follow baby) also no one apart from medical team, or him is to hold baby in the case that I have to be taken away for medical reasons or stitched up from a c section, I don't want to come back and his whole family have had cuddles before iv even seen baby! He told me I wanted to much and I wasn't being normal! I am not only fuming that this is his way of thinking but now nervous, and scared for birth! He's the only one I want in the labor room, my mum and sister (who would be totally on my side even if I requested a cow to deliver the baby) live in a different country and won't be coming until after the birth. I have no one else I trust to be with me... Not even my husband 😭😭after that discussion I decided I want a doula but he doesn't like that idea! Now I'm thinking I'd rather be in there by myself and he can wait outside becuase his very presence and unusefullness will bother me!