Ashamed to tell Dr. about depression?

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My daughter is 4 months old. Ever since I've had her I've been so sad. I cry every day, several times a day. I feel helpless. All I want to do is sleep or shop (it's been my way of coping with sadness for years) I love my daughter so much. She means the world to me, but I just can't shake this sadness. On top of depression I'm constantly anxious. My heart is always pounding because I'm always worried about something! I just feel out of control. I'm sobbing while typing this! I want to get help so badly, but I'm kind of ashamed and don't know how to tell my doctor. I can't turn to my husband because we are on bad terms because of my depression. He doesn't understand what I'm going trough. I really want to feel some relief and feel like I need to be on medication. Any advice?

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Sounds like postpartum depression...which is VERY common. Please seek help! You'll find that you had nothing to be ashamed of all along. 🙂

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Out of all people in your life, I guarantee you that your doctor will be the last person to judge you! On contrary, your doctor will be the only one who understands what is going on! If you haven't struggled with depression prior to pregnancy, you now most likely have postpartum depression and it's very very important to seek help. Depression is very common, and it threatens your happiness, but there is a solution, there are medication that will help you feel better. Please tell your doctor! Hugs.

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Thank you all for you comments and encouragement. I went to the doctor yesterday and let her know what was going on and I feel sooo relieved! I cried happy tears in the doctor after telling her. Now I'm getting some help and on my way to feeling better again!

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Never , I mean NEVER feel ashamed for asking for help. Your DR will not judge and will help.
No shame in depression.

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Please tell your dr! There is nothing wrong with you! Your dr of all people isn't going to judge you and they will help you with whatever you need!!!

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I get the exact same thing and my son is 7 months, I suffer with depression and anxiety and like you the father doesn't understand it.. You have to find coping mechanisms like reading, I used to do shopping and sleep too but try find something positive to distract you... If it doesn't work speak to a doctor it's perfectly normal and your not the only one

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Never be ashamed to tell your doctor anything. A doctor that is anywhere near halfway decent will never judge or criticize you. Don't wonder how to say it, just say it, and if there is any confusion, they are the professional and they will know what to ask to get everything understood.
This sounds like post partum depression though, which is very normal and very common. Your body goes through so many hormonal changes while pregnant and after having a baby, your emotions are very likely to feel out of control.
Absolutely tell your doctor and they can direct you in how to treat it in whatever way you are most comfortable with and they can probably even give you advice on how to tell your loved ones about it.
Don't be afraid to tell your partner though, he might not understand but that doesn't mean it is beyond understanding, with enough talking, and having your doctor explain the physiological causes to you, he will end up having more sympathy/empathy.

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Do not feel ashamed. I have depression and the best thing was going to talk to my doctor. Please talk to them. He or she will help u. It's going to be okay. I promise!!!!! I have ocd depression and bipolar. If I didn't get put on meds I don't think I'd be in a nice place right now. Been medicated for 6 months now. Get help. U will feel better

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Don't be ashamed! It's best if you tell you Doc so they can help. Do it for ur self, your daughter, and ur other love ones

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That's exactly how I feel. I try not to let it get the best of me but sometime I can't help it. I told my husband today why I shop so much and he just told me it's the most ridiculous thing he's ever heard of. Well that got me in the heart good. I have two kids by him and our littlest one just turned 4 months also. I'm a sahm and it's hard with the crazy hours he works and I'm taking care of the kids 24/7 and cleaning the house at the same time. It's not easy but I try and he isn't a talker and hates to talk about his feelings and just gets mad when I try talking to him about these types of things and just brushes it off like it's not a big deal because he's not the one going through it. I question a lot of things about our marriage but I want to work things out but he's very difficult.

Ashamed to tell Dr. about depression?

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