Sex toys?

So, my significant other is significantly more vanilla than me. He's open to doing new stuff for me if I'll facilitate it, though. One of our little "deals" sexually, is that he likes to get a blow job before sex, everytime. About 15 minutes. It's not a big deal and I don't mind at all. It gets me excited. But he HATES eating me out. He also won't do anal and he has had both of his arms broken at the wrist, so fingering can get a little frustrating and he can't do it long because his wrists never healed right and it hurts (both of us becuase his fingers curl involuntarily and hurt me). I've always loved trying new things sexually but he's a very aesthetic person... everything has to be very romantic and he prefers little to no casual conversation during sex. Like he's not rude about it, but it's a huge turn off if we try a new position and it doesn't work out. If I dont act/look like I'm about to get off, he starts asking if I'm okay and what's wrong, etc. Anyways! The other day I asked if he'd ever thought about trying sex toys and he just said, "No. What do you want for dinner?". I said I thought it'd be fun to try sex toys but he didn't seem interested in anything at all really and then got his feelings hurt and said that I must be bored and he was heartbroken that I could be bored just a few years into the relationship. I tried to explain that you don't have to be bored to try new things and that he might like it.

So I guess my question is, is there a better way to word it? Better way to bring it up? I really don't want to insinuate that I'll be gravely dissatisfied with our sex life forever if he simply isn't into it. Should i just buy a few "basic" toys and try to surprise him? (Of course not using any of them on him w/o permission, just showing him.) What's your experience been like? Any toy suggestions? Have you been the "vanilla lover" and what has been your feelings or experience with similar situations?