OK so, I have a 9 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. I divorced from their father when they were 4 and 9 months old because he is a liar, cheat, thief and addict. Hes been attending rehab classes for the past year and is currently living with his parents as he doesn't work etc. So it's fair to say he is a useless role model. My children have contact with him at his parents house every other weekend. A year after we separated I met my partner. We've been together for 4 years were very happy and settled, because of him my children and myself have all these wonderful things and most of all we have stability. Hes a fantastic kind hard working man and we have a baby on the way due July.

On and off we've been having problems with my son over the years just generally not listening. The worst was when we told him to go to sleep and the next morning when I looked through his iPod he was sending I messages to his pals gone 10pm, so as punishment we removed all electronics, he slowly started to earn them back. So last week he had his Xbox taken away from him because of bad attitude towards his sister and when I went in his room this morning I caught him playing on it, I'm not sure if this is my fault because I forgot to remove the controller but he was aware he was banned. When ever he comes home from his dad's he feels even more distant from me, he never talks to me, I can say something to him and 30 seconds later he's doing it again. I feel like he has no respect for me and hates me for leaving his dad. I wouldn't put it past his dad to fill his head with spiteful things but I couldn't prove it. Hes not outrageously naughty and his school work is perfect. Am I over reacting? I'd love some advice I feel so disappointed in him.