I'm afraid to tell my in-laws about my baby cleft mostly because they like to "speak their mind" without respect for others feelings. Specially my MIL, she just talk whatever comes to her mind without think, she doesn't know how to choose the best words, talks a lot of slangs and "bad words". They live in another state very far from me, but they are coming to visit when baby is born, I wish they didn't come until after 3 months. When baby will have his first surgery. 

Sorry, ignorant and uneducated people make very upset.