How do you get your boyfriend to be more sexually aggressive and outgoing? My boyfriends really shy and never makes the first move, he's really respectful. I'm just not used to that. I'm used to getting hot texts about the guy wanting me and it made me feel needed. Or the guy ripping my clothes off and having sex with me whenever and wherever. My boyfriend never really makes the first move and almost seems like he's scared of me saying no?? How do I kindly get him to slap my ass in public and fuck me like he means it (lmao) without making him feel like he needs to change who he is or without insulting him???