Am i over reacting?? Ladies ?

Question

So my husband and I have been together for a while its been since 06' and I know that at everything at the beginning of a relationship is always good , showing affection, that spark and butterflies in all! But I dont feel like it's okay for all that just to die out?? 
So lately I've seen how he's really ambitious and going above and beyond at work, yet with our relationship he's become so complacent, when I  bring up the fact that our relationship is dying out / that we need some "Us time" quality time . He's quick to say hey we "talk" (when all I n reality he's talking about work!) Not only that but our sex life as well as died out. We've had a porn situation not to long ago.... And some scars just open , idk if its the same with other women but I  tend to feel when hes watching porn and our sex life has died out that he's not attracted to me , I'm not good enough and so on ugh! 
With that being said long ago he had our Facebook accounts deleted and made one for the both of us, which made me feel hmm something is up? Anyways he's had some of his ex's  message/request friendship....then just yesterday he had a friend post up a old picture of some old friends and my husband happen to be in the picture with his ex....I didn't get on his case UNTIL he started commenting on the photo?? Okay so am I wrong to get upset about it, to be honest I felt disrespected and I  would've thought he would've just removed us from being tagged in the photo. But he didn't ? He told me that its just a old photo and that its nothing yet I know if that were me it would've been war!

Sorry ladies I just had to vent this out and hear someones take on this ?

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In regards to the photo situation- I think if it's an old photo with friends that includes an ex you are overreacting a bit. It's an OLD photo...much bigger issues in life than husband commenting on social media about an old photo with an ex. You are his wife and shouldn't feel threatened by a simple photo, we all have a past.   Marriage is about picking battles and don't think this is a very huge deal..

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No I don't think that's over reacting!  (Facebook post)
It's disrespectful and I wouldn't like that at all.
If he was in your shoes do you think he would shrug it off?

As far as the porn situation... I'm one who doesn't care about the porn or magazines because I'm comfortable with who I am... I think it would hurt more if our sex life was dwindling! Have you tried doing a boudoir photo shoot for him or putting on something sexy for when he comes home? I believe the little things matter so much!