Breaking up because of his training?

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My so wants to be special ops in the military and his date for trying out is coming up in 4 months. I love him and want to support him the best I can so I don't know if breaking up with him is my best decision... He is my best friend and I love him a lot, I just don't know what to do. Because his date is coming up soon he wants to start training more which I'm totally fine with since he doesn't come home until around 9 or 10 at night anyways, we just go to bed right after he gets home since he has to be up really early. But now he says he wants to start staying at the barracks at night and he will see me on the weekends, just so he can get enough sleep and be able to function in the morning... I know it's probably best for him to stay at the barracks but it's not best for me, I would be miserable and sad we wouldn't be able to live together anymore and not only that but the weekends are mostly for him to work out longer and get ready for his work week... So I would only be able to see him for about 7-8 hrs on Saturday. I know everyone is going to ask well what happens when he gets deployed, and he is gone for months?
It's different for me because he is literally so close and able to come home and sleep with me at night, he has the ability to and he just won't. I know I'm going to be miserable only being able to see him 7-8hrs a weeks and I know that would stress him out and make him lose focus on his dream...So I think it might just be better for me to leave so he doesn't have to deal with me putting stress on him and he can have total focus on his dream. I don't know if I'm just being stupid for doing this or what... Please any advice

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Honestly, you really need to consider if this is a marriage material guy for you. If you can't handle him being gone during the week for a few months for training how are you going to handle a deployment?  Military men may not be the best choice for you.

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Sounds like you're being a little selfish honestly. If you love him you will support anything. If you support him you support his dreams which means you need to understand what he needs to do to get to his dream. Yes it will be hard but to give up because YOU aren't satisfied then that's wrong.

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Military life is hard and you have to make sacrifices, and I'm not saying this to be mean but if you can't handle seeing him 5 days out of the week then it's not for you. 
It takes a strong woman and alot of love to support military dreams and it doesn't sound like you can..... I'm sorry if it coming off rude but for a year I would have been nothing but great full to even see my man on the weekends.

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My boyfriend is in the navy currently in Japan although it's hard for me I'd never leave his side. Although it's the career they choose I feel like they need us more. All that hard core training. Working long days ect at the end of the day I just want to tell him I love him and I appreciate his sacrifice.  Last thing you want to do is to mess that mans head up befor he leaves. What if he decided he wanted to walk away because you wanted to better your self? If he didn't have a career you'd be complaining about that too. It's not fair to him. If you love him stay with him and learn to deal. There's always nice military girlfriends/ wife's group you could join for supporting if need be.

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Being with someone in the military is not for everyone. It requires quite a bit of sacrifice and commitment. I say this because my brother is in the military and he never knows when he is going to be deployed or have to be gone for a month for training. His wife knows this and knows what she was taking on when she married him. You need to consider if you can handle the military life.

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In all honesty I think your decision in going seperate ways is what you should do. Especially if how you feel about him being gone 5 days out of the week really upsets you. You say that you really want him to be special ops and I'm sure he wants it more than anything as well since he's going to training for it. To accomplish that he needs to be focused entirely on that and not on if his significant other is mad or sad or whatever at him. A wondering mind in the military gets people killed and a attention to detail is paramount. People will say you're being selfish. You are NOT selfish! It would be selfish to stay and not be supportive of his work and only make his job harder for him. You are allowed to be happy as well and if that isn't the life style you want then that's OK! I grew up in a military family my whole life! I was the first woman in my family to serve, I met and married my husband who is still active duty! I get where you are coming from with the feelings of him being gone for periods of time. Some spouses man or woman absolutely cannot have a military relationship and then there are that can. Either or you are not "selfish" for letting him fulfill his dream without drama for the BOTH of you. It will suck yes but what sucks more love is  a non supportive significant other. I hope in what ever decision you decide that you are happy because that is all that matters.

Breaking up because of his training?

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