What a miscarriage feels like...

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"How can you miss something so bad that you've barley had"

When you find out your pregnant and you know you had a empty feeling for so long.. That "pregnant" test fills in that hole. Your so happy that you can't contain yourself. You look at baby stuff, look up stuff on the internet about what is going to be happening to your body and the baby.. Then one day you start bleeding and you feel numb.. You feel like those happy thoughts you had are just gone.. When the dr. Confirms your "not pregnant".. You feel lost, empty, and embarrassed.. You feel like a fool for being so happy. That hole that empty feeling before you got pregnant, is now emptier it then was from the start. You wanna scream and resent your spouse because they don't feel the pain your feeling. They just don't understand..  It's the "what if's" that kick in and hurt the worst. A miscarriage is greeving someone who you didn't even know..

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I teared up reading this 😔 I know how you feel honey. I have never in my life felt the amount of happiness and surprise when I found out I was pregnant, and I want that feeling back... When I miscarried I lost a big piece of me and even after 5 months I still feel that pain but I'm learning how to deal with it now. I was almost 12 weeks but the heart stopped beating at 9. You don't know true pain until you have to pass your dead child, a child that you so desperately wanted and you can't do anything about it. 
I know it hurts but it gets better with time. I promise 💜

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Thank you for that too! I was only 3 weeks but it was still there!! You can't take it away.. I had 7 positive pregnancy tests.. When I went to the dr.. He was a jerk about it as well.. He says "since you weren't that far along I wouldn't even count it"... I wanted to punch him in the nose and say are you kidding!! It's a horrible feeling and it's a sadness you don't know how to deal with! But in glad you have told me about you were able to have a healthy baby! I have hope for myself! (: thank you!

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Omg this made me cry
I had a misscarriage early march. I creid all day long and i hated my husband for not feeling the same pain i just wanted to be im bed crying

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Its a terrible, awful experience to have to go through.  It doesn't matter when or how far along you had the miscarriage, you still lost something. You lost a baby, you lost a life that you had created...  I had one at 6 weeks along, 6 years ago.  We went in for the first ultrasound and when i went to pee in the cup I lost it in the toilet.  I still had to go through with the ultrasound, tears and all.  We had heard the heart beat the previous week and now nothing. It was gone.  To top it off we were put back in the doctor's office where he proceeded to come in and say, "So, it looks like we're gonna have an ultrasound for that baby of yours today!" (No one had informed him what happened, my husband had to tell me we had lost it.).  After a few minutes, me still sobbing, he then continued with "Well, would you guys like to talk about trying conceive another baby?".  Are you freaking kidding me 😨😨😨??!  I just had a miscarriage and am sitting here unconsolable and you want to talk about trying to conceive with us???? 
Needless to say, we found another doctor.  But for many months afterwards I became super depressed. The feeling of our loss was totally consuming. This pregnancy hasn't been planned but in the end it made no difference.  I prayed and prayed God for a child after I got to a point where I felt like I was okay with everything.  6 months after having the miscarriage we found out we were pregnant again.  I was blessed with a beautiful daughter who is now 5.

I can only imagine what it feels like to progress farther into a pregnancy and have a miscarriage... Because I know how I felt at just 6 weeks along.  Everyone is different and everyone deals with things in their own way but do not downplay what you went through.  What doesn't kill us makes us stronger and if He brings us to it He will bring us through it.

Sorry, just wanted to share my experience and let you know I definitely feel for you

What a miscarriage feels like...

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