Divorce?

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I found out my husband was looking for a FWB (friends with benefits) for the past two weeks. When I confronted him he said it wasn't him then he said he was lieing then kept lieing. I'm hurting so bad what's wrong with me I thought I was good enough I try so hard to be good I cook I clean I take care of making sure bills get paid I go to church. What am I doing wrong I thought he loved me last night I had a panic attack that turned into a seizure he apparently was crying when I came to he was putting me in the car to go to the hospital.

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I'm sorry hun. But you need to leave him. Usually, cheating is on the cheaters fault. Nothing to do with the partner, it's just exciting and risky and often cheaters will cheat repetively, even with different "main" partners.

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Before you leave him look for options to fix it.  If that doesn't work then file for divorce.  I'm sorry that your going through this.  I know it's hard to know that your husband is seeking sexual relations from someone else.  Stay strong.  I'm here if you need to talk.

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Nothing is wrong with YOU. Its him. He cant be committed to just one person. Get a new man who will love you for all that you are.

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Sometimes no matter how hard you try, you will never be enough for certain people. Your husband might be one of them. Talk to him and ask him if he seriously wants a fwb. If he does, tell him you deserve better than that and divorce him. No one deserves to be on the back burner or second best. I know how it feels and it sucks. I am so sorry you are going through this. Best of luck to you!

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I'm so sorry. I know this pain well. My husband had been doing that fur 6 months of our marriage. He was also talking to prostitutes and talking to old girlfriends on Facebook. He even suggested to her, she is married as well, that they both get divorced so they could be together. He even cheated once. I was devastated. I found out he has a sexual addiction. This in no way excuses any thing he did, but he was so grateful I found out. It was a secret he was hiding because he thought he could fix it himself. He is now going to addiction recovery classes and I go to the spousal support and loved ones group. If he is willing to own up to it and get help then there is a chance you can get through it. It's not easy, and I don't trust him. I found out 4 months ago by checking his phone while he slept. I found text messages. If he isn't willing to even admit it, then leave. I would run. He needs to hit rock bottom before he is ready to change. I pray you can get through this!!