Problem

So I met my husband when he was 22. He is now turning 30 in August. We just had an argument about having sex. He said every time I want to make love I have to jerk him off to get him hard. I used to be able to kiss him and rub myself against him and he was ready to go. Now he says he's getting older and it takes a little more then that to get him going. So now every time I want to have sex I have to give him a bj to get him going if not  then that's to bad. Don't get me wrong. I do t have a problem w wet now and then. But every time. Seriously!!. What happened to the passion. What happened to just being next to each other and getting hot. Sometimes I feel like I could lay next to him naked and nothing would happen. I tried to kiss him and he said lets eat instead. So we ate. Then I tried again and he was to tired. AGain WTH!!! I'm getting annoyed. How am I to have a child if he won't help out lol. I give up.