Opinions matter

Hello everyone this is my first time posting anything on this app (so glad i found it) makes you feel not alone. So i have a question and i want to know everyones honest opinion. So i am currently 37wks 5days pg with mine and my husbands 3rd baby and its a boy 😊 we have decided to name him Ruben Alejandro. Until recently My husband really wants to change the babys middle name to his middle name which is armando. It is also his dads (my father-in-laws first name) he passed away in 2012. The only issue i have with that is i was sexually molested by a man with the same name. I really dont to have that name associated in my everyday life, but im not naming him after him i would be doing it for my husband and his father. Im just at a tug-o-war with myself on what to do. I know at the end of the day i'd be constantly reminded of it, but i also feel torn because i know it means alot to my husband. The ?? Is what is yalls opinion on the situation? Would you or would you not use the name??