Ugh, i have been dreading telling my mother exactly how i want my birth to go because i knew it wasnt going to go over easy. 😔 and i was right. I will be induced Tuesday and she just asked me about my plan for the day. I have been hinting all along that it will just be me & my husband during the birth so i know she knew it but i hadnt said it directly. So today i said "well i dont think its necessary for you to be there a 4am because im sure the process wont start right away but maybe i can call you closer and you and Sofie (my 5yr old daughter) arrive when the babys about to be born. I mean its just going to be me and Erbin (my husband) during the birth any way. And then im not trying to upset any one but i feel like i want Sofie to come in for 10 mins by herself so she can have her moment and then everyone else can come in." Her whole mood changed. Then she says "well maybe i should just work that day and come up to the hospital later" i told her its not that i dont want you there you can be there up to when i push and come back in right after i just feel like i want my daughter to have her moment before everythibg becomes all about the baby. My main concern is that she is ok. My mom says fine whatever you want. Then 30 mins later i get a call from my brother saying that my mother is crying about something. Omg i spend everyday worrying about others and i feel like this is the one time when i shouldnt have to do that. Here i am 5 days away for giving birth and stressing about how i have hurt her feelings. I dont know how to handle this. I get that she's excited and wants to see the baby right away but the baby will be the same baby 10 mins later.