Advice From Someone Who Has Been There?

Question

Yesterday was my boyfriend and i's 4 year anniversary. We are in our early twenties and started dating when we were teens and I should mention that  I'm 3 years older than him. He is 20 and I'm 23. ( yes, he was 16 and I was 19 when we started dating) We love each other and we have a connection that I have yet to find with anyone else. Also, we were each other's first.
And we just moved in together a little over a year ago...

After 4 years, we feel like our relationship is at a stand still. Since he is only 20, we are not ready to get married or have children yet- the things that could liven up a relationship. We admitted to each other last night that sometimes we feel bored and at times, we want to experience that new love feeling. Is this normal? We both agreed that we want to try to make it work and get past these feelings but we are not sure where to go from here.. Any advice would be great!

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Yes, that's totally normal for a couple who has been together for as long as you two have and are not ready for a bigger commitment or children, which is also understandable at his age of 20. I feel like sometimes this feeling passes and when it does you are happy to be with the man you love and have loved for such a long time. However, if the feeling doesn't pass and you're still thinking about looking for something new and exciting maybe dating other ppl wouldn't be a bad idea and maybe you would come back together in the end. Anyways hope that helps a little :)

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You shouldn't nessasarily look at marriage or a baby as things to liven up your relationship. They're just an added bonus! Me and my boyfriend are both 20 and 21, we're not ready for marriage or to have kids, we're enjoying our time together. Why not have a look at travelling together? :)

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I recommend on both your days off. Go for a drive. No certain destination. Just drive somewhere a couple hours away. And then explore the new city or town together. And then use the gps to get home. That's what my husband and I do on the weekends.

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music or stop and go hiking through the woods or have bonfires or go shooting or even meet up with his friends and their women and do something together. at the end of the day it's all about if he is ready or not. Please do not make yourself feel like it has something to do with you he is just trying to grow up a little that's all. My 21-year-old fiancé proposed to me he wanted a baby I'm nine months pregnant and he's very happy and so am I. There are some people that don't do what you're doing until they're in their 30s and there's others that do it really early like my fiancé. Try not to let society judge you or make you think that you're doing things out of order everyone does what's right for them. Going out and sleeping with other women and experiencing other women may not do anything for him but just lead him down a fast life path and he'll wake up one morning lonely and not knowing what he did with himself. Unfortunately he needs to decide that on his own in the meantime stay by his side try to have fun with him get out of the house smile and laugh and let him decide his path. Also don't let him fall into that belief that he's too young to be a man because he is indeed a man and he is perfectly capable.

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him because you were his first and he just stayed with you and you feel like he's missing out on something when he really isn't. He will find that this world is full of manipulation and abuse and people just trying to take advantage etc. if you are good to him he's lucky for what he has and maybe he just needs reminded of that. When we would get bored hed take me out in his truck on the back country roads we would blast

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My fiancé is 21 but he has more balls and honor and dedication and ambition then some men 15 years older than him. I think it depends on the man. And I am quite a few years older than him but I have known him and his brothers their entire lives. And in his high school years he was kind of wild and he had experienced a good bit as is. And do not think for a second that there are not many men out there that lose their virginity to a woman and stay with her for the rest of their lives because they do. Do not feel bad for

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