Let's talk about sex

I had my little girl 19 days ago and my husband is dying to get some action. My postpartum bleeding has just about stopped but I'm still super nervous. Our midwife said to go for whenever I feel "ready" but how will I know when I'm "ready"?! I'm terrified!!

Any of you mommies done the deed yet?? I know we're gonna need lots of lube once it happens, but I had a first degree tear and I'm so scared its gonna feel like torture. 😓