My husband and I have been together for 14 years and he's only been able to give me an orgazm as many times as I can count on my fingers. Usually the only way I can get an orgazm is when I take care of myself😊 hehe, even for me I really have to work myself up and think about literally nothing in order for it to happen. Sex is wonderful, but for some real I'm so focused on him enjoying himself, that it's hard for me to relax and enjoy myself. Does this sound silly?