Why were you told to wait?!

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Seems like we've all been given some different answers as to why you should or shouldn't wait to TTC. I thought it would be nice to see all the reasons we've been given so we can all decide what's best for ourselves. (Forgive me for not putting 100% faith into doctors as I once did)

If you feel comfortable, I think it would be helpful to share a little background as well so we can find people similar.

I lost my twin girls at 17.6w when their hearts stopped beating. A week earlier I had surgery to try to fix TTTS (a disease that only affects identical twins). Obviously, it did not work. I was induced and gave birth to my daughters at 18w.

I actually had a team of doctors due to the twins and TTTS and one doctor told me as soon as I stop bleeding (2 weeks) and another told me to wait 3 months but no one gave me an actual medical reason why.

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Update: just went to my normal doctor and she said it would be best to wait for one period but if I get pregnant before then, it's fine too, just be cautious of false positives.

I had an induced birth, not a DnC so maybe it's different.

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I started bleeding around 7 weeks. Went to the ER to be told I couldn't see the baby but they said "everything is fine". A week later, I started passing tissue and went back to confirm that my baby had already left my body. The Doctor told me that my cervix were already closed and when we felt ready, we could try again. I had a follow up appointment 2 weeks later with a different doctor and he told me to wait 3 months. My midwife told me a woman's most fertile time in her life is following a birth/miscarriage and that there's not specif reason as to way some people say to wait. Some argue that your body needs time to heal, some say you need time emotionally. Personally, when you're ready, you're ready regardless of any time frame... Whether that be directly after or two years from now. The decision is yours 😃

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I had an ultrasound at 7w3d and saw the heartbeat. A few days later I started hurting really bad but only had to small wipes of brown. The dr wasnt concerned but I was so I had another ultrasound at 8w2d and it verified that the baby's heart had stopped. I had a d&c the next day. I was told that I could start trying as soon as I stopped bleeding.

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I was told to wait 3months (was 8w4d pregnant when I had to have a d&c) so that my body goes back to normal and i have a lower chance of another mc... I have read that this is bs and that they just do it for dating... If my SO and I decide we will start trying immediately, I am also having a hard time trusting the doctors...

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Just had a D&C today 8w1d and doctor said I could begin trying immediately and said no sex for only 1 week after procedure.

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I was told I can TTC as soon as my hcg levels go back to 0 (or under 2 at least).
3 weeks after mc my levels lingered around 100. Will go in for yet another blood test when it's 4 weeks after mc.

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My doctor said waiting a few months/few cycles gives the uterus time to completely heal and get "cushiony" again so that implantation is more likely and more viable. Makes since, I was bummed to hear that we should wait but I definitely want my body to healed and not have to go through this again..

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I had a d&c earlier this week. I'm heart broken but we want to try again ASAP. Doctor said no sex until I stop bleeding and I can TTC again after my period comes. He said it's mostly for dating purposes and if I do happen to get pregnant before my period I wont be at higher risk for mc, just tricky to figure how far along pregnancy is.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. The baby stopped growing at 7w5d. My doctor also told me to wait 3 months. I just had my ultrasound today to make sure it was a complete miscarriage  and the technologist told me I'm good to try again (she's not a doctor though).  I think really depends on the doctor and what they personally feel is best. I think I will wait the 3 months so I can make sure my uterus heals and goes back down to size, and I can try to be healthier before we try again.

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Went for my post mc check up, my doctor said physically I can try whenever, it's the emotional and psychological question that remains.

Why were you told to wait?!

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