And he says he wants to do some things before we start trying and he thinks this is too early and we have a lot to do. Next month we'll be 22&24 and it could take years to get pregnant! (Hopefully not but we prepare for the worst) he agreed the other day to have a baby in our mid 20's so I told him "you ARE mid 20s and I will be soon too. And if we want a physical baby around 24-26 we need to start NOW. It takes months to conceive. Sometimes years and then 9 months after that the baby is around. He understood but said he wanted to get some stuff done but he doesn't even know what get. I asked him to think about it and write down anything that came to mind and we'll discuss it tonight when I'm off work. But I can't imagine what he could possibly want to do?  We travel constantly (leaving tomorrow for the badlands and Mount Rushmore) we've had romantic getaways and drunken nights and we've gone exploring and snowboarding and kayaking and white water rafting and you can still DO THINGS after you have a baby. Your life isnt over. Obviously him and I are different but just from your own experience what did your husband need before he could start TTC? I want to make sure my husband is ready and excited when we start.