Do any of you moms feel this way?

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Hello Ladies!!
I am FTM to a 1 year old girl and I stay at home. It's been a wonderful year and I love being with my baby girl. But sometimes I get frustrated because I am literally stuck at home. I cook, look after my daughter and my day literally goes doing chores at home. My husband has a very demanding job and he s literally drained out by the time he comes home. But he still manages to go to gym, occasional drinks with friends. I don't mind that because he will always ask me before going out whether it is ok with me and he is a big help at home whenever he can. But the thing is I get cranky because I am constantly either cooking or cleaning or laundry all with looking after a one year old and sleepless nights. I have few friends who are also in same situation as me so we don't meet that often. I Donot have time to go to gym forget pursuing what I like. Mind you I love being at home with my daughter but sometimes I feel soo frustrated and I end up fighting with my husband and feel bad about it. I literally have no help. I don't look after myself. Now with summer coming I feel like going out with my husband and baby but I am either cooking or feeding my one year old who literally takes two hours to finish her meal. And making my daughter finish her meal is another huge task. I have to constantly behind her leaving all my work to make her eat something.i feel like a failure. I feel I am not good at managing my time or home chores and not taking my daughter out.
Does anybody else is in the same situation?  How do you ladies take out time for yourself yet manage everything at home with a baby?

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Mom of 2 kids very close together and I can tell you, it gets better with time. As she gets older and more independent, and you'll learn ways to manage chores better. For my first, I felt like I was always drowning in laundry and dishes. But now they are 3 and 2, and I feel like I can breathe. Hang in there. Tell your husband you need some "you" time. Whatever that is. For me it's going grocery shopping alone lol. Anything to make yourself feel better.

Also. you are NOT alone. You share the same thoughts and fears as many other moms. Your are NOT failing I promise!

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I thought FTM was female to male😹.

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My oh works too and doesnt live with us our son is nearly 3 and i do everything myself he is the same swams off out whenever he feels like it i dont even have a minute to do a pee myself lol it annoys me alot sometimes as i feel like i can never do anything for myself even a walk to the shops would be nice :/ i feel you i love my son and looking after him but parenting should be a two way thing xx

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Everything takes time, you should never feel like failure. Do meal preps and one thing I wish I would have done when my son was younger was having a glass of wine one in a while even by myself lol cuz now I know it would have made things seem simpler as if I didn't "lose" myself in motherhood. I also worked out at home when I could! Some squats push-ups sit ups anything jumping jacks. You know just put some music you love and just dance with your baby while doing the chores it lightens up the fact that you're actually cleaning

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Hi I'm so sorry you're feeling like that it's horrible I have had it to, it feels never ending and even though we all love our children it's hard work and non stop. My husband and I also got into lots of arguments over silly things just because I felt low and exhausted so he suggested a few nights a week he would bath her and get her ready for bed which gave me and hour or so to do a few bits that were for me whether it was plucking my eyebrows or watching trashy tv lol but that really helped! If not maybe have a night out once a month with some friends or something just so you have something different to look forward to . Hope that helps 😊 or is in some way useful xx

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If it's nice out try to pack your daughter a lunch and go have picnics at the park. Anything ro get out of the house will make you start to fee better and a lot of times during the day at the park you'll meet other stay at home moms. Also check to see if there are any mom groups in your area. I'm a stay at home mom and know I would go crazy if I was home all the time just cooking and cleaning.

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My daughter is almost two now. So she's mostly feeding herself. She still takes almost 45 minutes to eat sometimes. Don't sweat it if she's not eating as much as you want- she might just not be hungry.  Children will not let themselves starve.  I put her food on her tray and if she eats, great. if she doesn't, she gets down and doesn't get any snacks.  Then when the next meal comes around, she usually eates it. 
I definitely get the "not having a lot of time to yourself" problem. It sucks.  I try, though.  Sometimes I set my alarm an hour earlier than my little one gets up,  just so I can have a shower to myself.  I have to admit,  I also use the "box babysitter". TV. I try to clean while she's running around or watching tv, then when she's napping i either nap, or focus on me.  It balances out most of the time.

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Why can't you map out a schedule where you each get a few hours a few nights a wee so you can go to gym, pedicure, drinks etc. We plan on doing that so we both have time to pursue our interests and needs. Since you stay home I understand needing some time for yourself and I see his point of staying home as your job. What about sending your lo to day care a few hours a week?

Do any of you moms feel this way?

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