Need to vent

Jennifer

I'll try to make this as short ad possible.

My mother has been emotionally abusive toward me for as long as I can remember. She's not like this with my 2 sisters or brother. She just has a chip on her shoulder for me. I honestly have never known why.

I haven't been home to see my parents in 2 months. I live 5 hours away and it's hard. My husband and I drove down this weekend since today is a holiday and neither if us work.

My mom knows I'm 11 weeks pregnant. I also have bronchitis which has been hell mixed with pregnancy. I'm not allowed to cough in front of her, complain or say I'm nauseous... never have been allowed to be sick while around her period. Only she's allowed to be sick or in pain. "You're in pain? Don't complain try being in my shoes for a day"..... no joke. She was never sick during her pregnancies so how am I???!!! Uhhhhh

Also she keeps telling me I'm fat... she's severely overweight. I am not and never have been... also I AM PREGNANT.

Anyway my mom is obsessed with my older sister. She wishes she was the one who was married and pregnant. Yesterday she asked me about baptizing our kid.... hello it's like forever from now.. she told me my older sister better be the God mother and if we baptize the baby in Ontario where my husbands family is, she will disown us... first of all, you can't tell me how to raise my child or where to baptize him or her. Secondly, please disown me. That is your loss not mine. She waited for my.husband to.leave yesterday and did everything in her power to make me cry. I told her she hasn't seen me in 2 months and what she's doing is wrong, especially while I'm pregnant. This is my first pregnancy and she's just being nasty and stressing me out. I have literally never done this before.... give me a break woman.

I'm close with my dad and brother. But my dad just sits there and never says anything to my mom. I know he knows she's wrong but nobody wants to deal with her. Usually I fight back but she had a heart attack a few weeks ago and if she has another she'll blame me... seriously.

I don't know how to close the door on her without shutting my dad and siblings out too.... it's been 26 years of this.. when can I finally say enough is enough? She hasn't called me once to see how I'm doing since I told her I was pregnant. And yesterday she told me she didn't care about me, only about the baby. I don't want to subject my children to the same negativity she subjected to me... even if she's kind to my children, they will still watch her be abusive toward me... my husband has no clue what to do. He tells me my mom has problems but again... how do we shut her out without the rest having to suffer too?! I'm not a bad or greedy child. I have never asked my parents for anything. .. my 2 sisters are very spoiled. My parents are constantly giving them money and taking them on trips... my mom only likes me when it's convenient for her. I know this sounds insane but it's not possible to exaggerate because it's worse than what I can write on here.... I'm just at my wits end. I cried all night last night. I did tell my mom after she was done telling me off that she shouldn't be doing this. That she should be worried about herself not things that haven't been decided yet and that she has no right to make me cry or tell me how to raise my kid. She just yelled and snapped back at me and told me I do things her way or she won't be part of this kids life... all I can think is GOOD. Easier if she closes the door instead of me having to do it.

I could literally go on forever....