Why do I feel this way? Is it real or depression kicking in?

My boyfriend leaves for work at 5am & gets home at 630pm. While he's at work, we text & everything seems okay. But when he gets home he's such an asshole. He always sits on his phone from the time he walks in until he goes to bed. I'm gonna give you a few examples of how he acts..

He came home & I'd made him a hamburger for dinner. I hate beef so I was gonna make myself something else, but I had to feed Chloe. I breastfeed & she's 3 weeks old today. So I asked him if when he's done eating, if he could just make me a sandwich or something & his response was to put the baby down & cook myself something.. as I'm feeding her. I told him I wasn't gonna do that, it wouldn't be fair to stop feeding her so I can eat & he said well idk what to tell you. Another thing is I needed a shower desperately.. I'm not healing properly from a 4th degree episiotomy & I'm afraid of getting an infection. But I hadn't showered in about 5 days & I asked him if he could watch Chloe so I could get a quick shower. She was already fed, changed & asleep. He told me to put her in the bassinet & wheel her in the bathroom with me incase she wakes up. Like wtf am I supposed to do, soaking wet or soapy, if she wakes up. & Another thing that's kinda stupid.. we've been together for 5 years & we always used to go look at the bunnies. There was a neat in our yard & it was something that really made me happy. We haven't had bunnies for about 3 years now, but yesterday.. lone behold a baby bunny in the yard. I got all excited & ran in the next room where he was sitting on his phone & said omg babe come look, the bunnies are back! But he refused to get up, he said it's just a stupid bunny. Idk maybe I'm overly sensitive but I'm exhausted.. have no help all day while he's gone. I don't have a car so we're stranded in the middle of nowhere. If we run out of something or need to go anywhere, it has to wait until he's off, Friday through Sunday. I understand he's tired too fro! Work. But he's changed her diaper twice I think, never had to feed her because I breastfeed. The most he does is pick her up & lay her on his lap while he sits on his phone. I've tried & tried to talk about it.. he makes me feel like a p.o.s mom for even asking for help. He constantly hurts my feelings & is buried so deep in his phone that he can't even concentrate on a movie with me, or hold a conversation. It's pathetic. I told him we talk more when he's not even home. I've threatened to leave & he just doesn't seem to care.. Chloe wants to be fed every hour or less, even at night & I'm exhausted & he tells me if I nap then the house won't get cleaned & that makes me lazy. Sorry this is Alot to read.. idk I just worry because all I do anymore is cry. I've never been depressed before but this is like a sadness that just won't go away, like if someone you love passes away kinda sadness.