So about three days ago my mother in law (who lives in Ohio, about 12 hours from us) sent a text stating that the minute I go into labor (which should be any time in the next 4 weeks), we were going to text her so she can drive here immediately and then said she would be staying with us for a few days.

My husband didn't answer so after sending her a requested weekly update picture, she proceeded to text me the same thing. I sent out a mass text to all the soon-to-be grandparents staying very plainly that we would call everyone after the birth while our little princess was being cleaned up, that way we could have bonding time and I could shower while everyone was driving to the hospital. 

My father-in-law and his new wife and my mother both understood and said it was a precious time for us and they would respect our wishes. My mother-in-law flew in to a rage and said all sorts of nasty and hateful things like we are stripping her of this precious time in her life and that we are stealing this from her. Then she said we were selfish and that we would have to live with what we did to them (she was "speaking for everyone") for the rest of our lives and how dare we do this because they're already "part-time grand parents".

Now I attempted to call her and explain. The first thing she did was hang up on me. So I tried again. She answered and said "what" so my very first sentence to her was "don't you dare disrespect me when I have never disrespected you."

I tried to talk to this woman for 11 minutes, she would not stop yelling over me and making outrageous accusations and even accused me of drinking and doing drugs while pregnant (obviously neither are true, I'm active duty navy and receive a drug test every month to two months which will back that up). At one point I yelled at her, and told her to shut up for once and listen to someone. 

I also told her she has made my entire pregnancy about her and how she needs to feel important.

Then I said she was selfish and childish and all we asked for was those few lousy hours with our baby while she made the drive down because it was MY BABY and MY CHOICE. 

She only cares that it's her grand baby. Not that my husband and I have rights as parents or that IM the one giving birth. 

How do I deal with this woman in the hospital after my baby is born? I want to have her restricted from the room and just be done with it but my husband (who has been on my side this whole time) is in a hard place right now. 

Oh: and she proceeded to text him (after I blocked her number) and tell him that I said so many hurtful things I can't take back and now she feels sorry for him and how my true colors have shown. 

Am I wrong? Was I out of line?

I gave it my best shot at trying to explain but she wouldn't have it.