Boyfriends female best friend
My boyfriend and I started dating a few years ago and we have a 3 month old. He has a female best friend that he told me was only a friend and was like a sister to him. I never felt okay with it but I let it go. She sends him hearts, kiss emojis, etc, and he says he knows it isn't right, but doesn't tell her to stop. She's invited him to her college graduation with her parents and family and he went. She posts on social media that she loves him along with pictures of them together. They go to a lot of all day car shows together, get coffee, ice cream, all that good stuff. I have asked to go along and I get told that I wasn't invited so I can't go. Then I find out I'm pregnant last year and my cousin is good friends with this girl. She tells her mom that this girl hates me because she is in love with my boyfriend and wants him. She told my cousin that they had unprotected sex twice and the last time was the day before we started dating. I confronted my boyfriend because to me, a girl can't be best friends with a guy she's had sex with and clearly has feelings for. He said that it was true, but she lied about the timing. They stopped being friends because of that and she told him to go have fun with his insecure girlfriend and earlier before this that she didn't like me. I tried being friends with her and she has no interest in getting to know me. She looks at him like she loves him and she gives me dirty looks.
So, last week or so he tells me they are friends again and that I cannot tell him who he can and can't talk to (I've never ever told him he can't be friends with her or anyone else. I don't know where he got that from). He says that she messaged him about a car she wanted and doesn't know what she's looking for. I wasn't happy, but I let it go. Every time he has his phone out she has messaged him. She's constantly in his messages. My cousins told me that she talked shit about both of us and said she's hated both of us. I told my boyfriend and he wanted proof, of course. I asked my cousins and neither will send me anything because they don't want to ruin their friendships with her and they don't want to rat her out. I totally understand, but now I am lost.
I don't want to be "that" girlfriend that tells her boyfriend he can't be friends with someone, but it really bothers me. He knows this and doesn't seem to care at all. Every time I bring it up he says I don't trust him and it's just that I don't trust her. We rarely argue and when we do, it's all about her.
I have no idea what to do! Has anyone experienced anything like this, and what did you do to help it?
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