I cant fall asleep without my husband!!

I have the worst time! Even naps! Unless I'm so extremely exhausted I can't keep my eyes open, or unless Im super sick I can't even fall asleep for a nap unless here's here. And it's not even being scared or anxiety. I have pyrophobia and when he worked nights that was my problem, but now he just works till 11 at night. I try do hard to fall asleep at a normal time like 8 or 9 because I work in the mornings at 7 am... but I can't relax or fall asleep. I just toss and turn and lay there. Its so frustrating... anyone else have this problem??