For those waiting for marriage...

Serious question, not at all bashing your choice. There is just something that has always super confused me about people waiting for marriage. I know everyone has different boundaries when it comes to waiting to have sex until marriage, so this may not apply to everyone. But a majority of you will kiss, touch, have oral and sometimes even anal and still consider yourself a virgin.

To me, that is all still sex. Especially emotionally. So is it about keeping your hymen in tact? Because then you could lose your virginity riding a horse. But emotionally and physically you've already given yourself to the other person by using all these "loopholes" to still be intimate and please each other. Why is it ok to give a blow job and let him finger you, but not have intercourse?

Do you see my confusion? What is the difference? It's all "sex" and vaginal penetration is just the one thing you stay away from.