I really need your opinions! ! How often is it ok for a SO to want to go out drinking with his mate's?

Question

So I have been with my SO for nearly 20 years. We have 2 children (2 girls- 8 & 9 ) & I'm expecting our 3rd in August. Now in all those years, I've never been the type to tell him where he can & can't go. Which is usually out drinking to the local pub with his mates atleast once a week( staying away for the entire night). He's not working therefore I pay the rent, gas, electricity etc. He does very little to help around the house except cooking dinner each night ( because he insists on doing it himself) This weekend he went ahead & made plans to go into town ( clubbing ) and I told him I didn't think it was appropriate.  
Well now he's completely pissed off at me & is going on saying Im telling him what he can & can't do & now he'll never go out again blah blah blah! 
I never EVER go out with friends,  leaving him with the kids, let alone out drinking every week etc.
Am I being unfair by asking him not to go out drinking with his mate's EVERY weekend & staying at home with his family? I think he's behaving like a spoilt brat, sulking when he doesn't get his own way!! 
What do you think? Please help!!!

Answer

I think you're right in what you're asking him. Why should he have the life of Riley when you are the one to do everything?? That's very selfish of him. Maybe he's just gotten so used to getting his own way. You should of put your foot down alot sooner in my opinion. You're not being unfair at all and if he wants a childish tantrum about it then let him. He's a grown man his priorities should be you and his girls not clubbing every weekend. Maybe when he works and helps out a little more then maybe he can have a good enough excuse. Hope it all works out for you

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I'd be mad. If i stayed at home, even though it is legally our money, i couldn't even think about blowing money like that. It's rude to go out so much like that when you hardly make a contribution.

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Uhm no, where is he getting the money to blow? You? Nope. He wants to act like a single guy, go live like one.

No man is obligated to chill with their friends every week and spend money they don't have. He needs to be focusing on himself and finding a job. I don't accept a man who doesn't work. Freeloaders piss me off so bad.

I really need your opinions! ! How often is it ok for a SO to want to go out drinking with his mate's?

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