Wwyd if a woman addresses your husband but not you?

Ashley
So I'm African American and my husband is Native American, but people always mistake him as being Puerto Rican. Everywhere we go (in public) we either get the cold stares or the sexual stares (as in women eyeing his every move). One time we were at a festival, and one girl (about 23/24 maybe) made it her business to leave her stand (she was selling items for kids) and discuss her products with my husband but not me and I'm standing next to him with our child. Not once did she look at me and even asked for his number. I didn't say anything, just looked at him to see how he would respond, and he told me to give the girl my number if she wanted to stay in touch. Smart move! B/c I was ready to pop off and punch her dead in her face at any given moment! Another time we were in Walmart, except this time we split up and went down separate aisles. This girl who I had already noticed eyeing him, decided to wait until we split to address him. I just so happen to be right on the next aisle, and saw her walk down the aisle he was on but couldn't hear what they were saying. I asked him what they were talking about, and he told me she told him he was cute and tried to hand him a paper with her number on it, but he declined. Almost everywhere we go we have some type of incident with a female. I know he wouldn't cheat. He loves me and talks/brags about me all the time to his family, friends, etc. We have no pass codes on our phones, tablets, etc. But it does make me feel uncomfortable b/c I don't like being put in situations where all eyes are on him, waiting to see how he will handle or respond to the females being thrown at him. I also don't appreciate the disrespect. Its very trashy to me when other women don't care about a man being married, or if he's with his family at the moment they are trying to holla. I mean, some woman have absolutely no shame in their game!! I guess they like the idea of getting knocked the fuck out or getting carried out on a damn stretcher!! Ijs! Is there any other who deal with these type of situations? If so, how do you handle it?
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Ra

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Ah!! I am always flabbergasted when this happens!!! Have some respect people!!! This has happened with my husband as well, thought not on the same scale as you.  even though it can be frustrating, it's the price we pay for having sexy beasts for husbands! I Try to laugh it off and make the girls feel super uncomfortable if I can! They shouldn't have the power to make ME feel akward while they unashamedly flirt with MY husband. It's my personal mission to make them feels like assholes (which they are). cheers to having faithful, committed  husbands! 

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Ashley • Jun 11, 2016
Lol! ...when you said you make it your mission to make them uncomfortable.. ha! hilarious

Av

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This used to happen to me too in my younger days. Girls, particularly those younger than this would wait for my then boyfriend, now husband to split, like if I were to go to the toilet etc, and as soon as I left they would be all over him. He's so gorgeous though, when I returned he'd be like "ah here's my gorgeous girl!" And introduce me to these desperate, trashy people and then he'd ask if they wanted my number to keep in contact? They always said no.😂

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Ashley • Jun 11, 2016
smh 😂

Mi

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This happens to us all the time too but women will only address my husband and men will only address me. My husband and I have talked about it and anytime it happens on either end we grab each other's hands or make obvious physical adjustments. It does piss me off but I've heard I am not approachable. I think I have bitchy resting face lol my husband on the other hand always has a smile on his face and is adorable. I think that's why lol 

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Tamirah • Jun 11, 2016
i have that same face my husband says why do you always look so mean lol

Al

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It's happened a few times. My husband is friendly but ALWAYS cuts these women short and introduces his "beautiful wife" or "amazing wife" or "best thing in my world" pretty much gets the message across really quick. 

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That's their way of letting you and your husband know that they THINK he can do better. That he is to good for you in their opinion. It's obvious disrespect and usually someone might argue that they might think you two are related but I doubt that I'm sure they are aware that you two are together especially if you had your baby present. This is so awful. Sorry you are dealing with this. If it was me I would probably just smile and wave. If you address them then they will feel like what they did wasn't wrong if you curse them out. But if you just smile and wave they probably won't know what to do. 

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This happens to me every single time my boyfriend and I go out. He's African American and I'm biracial. Everybody looks at me as if I'm White or Mexican (I have no Mexican in my DNA).  Every Time this happens I snap on somebody for it or even say something to him about how it makes me feel he gets very upset. He always tells me he doesn't care what anybody else has to say or does that I'm the woman he's coming home with every single night faithfully. But what he's not understanding is the disrespect these women are giving. It gets under my skin even though I know he'll never do anything with another woman it's just the simple fact that every time we go to eat the waitress always asks are y'all together, or automatically brings separate bill. I always want to look at her and say because my skin tone does t match yours or his doesn't mean we can't be together. Sorry for the rant, but yes I get very offended by stuff like this...

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What the hell is wrong with people.. Smh. When I go to the store I get the old lady asking me if I'm enjoying the weather, not hit on 😂

Am

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This has happened to me and I make it a point to jump in or let them know I am standing there too. One girl even grabbed my husband's arm to ask about what supplements he uses. He said none of yours and walked off. I wanted to punch her in her filthy face! Lol

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Ugh I so hate when this happens! It's like umm do you seriously not see the rings on my finger & im like right beside him! 

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I deal with this all the time and both my husband and I are African American. He gets hit on by women from all walks of life both young and old. We just laugh and make jokes about it. We been married for 10 years both of us are 29. I believe it's the morals, values and respect a lot of people lack in today's society