Have you ever fallen out of love in a relationship?

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I left my husband - we'd been together just over 7 years and married for about 18 months. I wanted kids, he wanted to be "secure" part of which was getting married, buying property & me being on his private health insurance. I did ALL of that & he still refused to even talk to me about kids. Among other things he emotionally abused me & basically ignored me.

As I spoke to my mum about it and said he's not a bad man etc she said no of course not, is your father a bad man? (They're long divorced) and I said no. I realised the opposite of love isn't hate, and you don't "fall out" of love with someone, rather, you become indifferent. And I think that's worse. I don't hate him, I never will and I would never change what happened I learned vital lessons about myself & relationships because of him/our relationship.

Fast forward 5.5years I'm pregnant with my second child with my "new" boyfriend & we've travelled a hell of a lot more, internationally, to places I never thought I'd get to see. He's an amazing father to both his kids (he has a son from a previous marriage) & I'm very thankful I didn't have kids in the end with my ex who would've been competely useless.

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I didn't fall out of love. I still love him, but I love me more. So I left him.

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I loved the idea of him.

I was young. He was older but had a mentality 10 years younger than he actually had.

I was so excited that he asked me out, swore I loved him before I even knew what love was.

With him a year and a half, realized I wasn't his girlfriend.... I was his mother.

"Did you brush your teeth?," "have you put on deodorant?", "Remember to grab your glasses from your grandmothers," "have you gotten gas this week?", "don't eat that crab, you didn't put it away last night!"

It was ridiculous. And one day I knew I didn't love him. I knew I was only in the relationship for his benefit.

I was sad that I wasn't in love with him anymore. I was upset at myself because I couldn't make myself love him.

But it was all for the best.

Now, if I go to the mall, (where he works) he has to excuse himself to cry in the back and he messages his cousin, (my best friend,) that she "needs to keep her out of the mall." That he can't handle it.

We broke up 7 years ago.

Have you ever fallen out of love in a relationship?

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